Tag: reflection

  • Benefits and Tips of Having an Attitude of Gratitude

    Practicing gratitude involves focusing on the good things in your life. As well as being thankful for them. It is about shifting your mindset from what you don’t have to what you do have. Also, acknowledging the blessings and positive experiences that surround you.

    Gratitude has numerous benefits for your mental and emotional well-being. It can help reduce stress and anxiety. Further, it helps increase feelings of happiness and contentment. More so, it also helps improve your overall outlook on life. When you practice gratitude, you develop a greater sense of perspective. You gain appreciation for the people and experiences. They contribute to opportunities that make your life meaningful.

    There are many ways to practice gratitude. Some of these include keeping a gratitude journal, expressing gratitude to others, or taking a moment to reflect on the good things in your life. It is important to make gratitude a regular practice and incorporate it into your daily routine.

    Some tips for cultivating a habit of gratitude include:

    1. Start your day by listing three things you are grateful for.
    2. Express gratitude to someone who has had a positive impact on your life.
    3. Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment.
    4. Use visual reminders, such as a gratitude jar or sticky notes, to prompt yourself to think about what you are grateful for.
    5. Take time to appreciate the simple pleasures in life, such as a beautiful sunset or a warm cup of coffee.

    In summary, practicing gratitude is about acknowledging and appreciating the positive aspects of your life. By doing so, you can experience a greater sense of happiness, contentment, and fulfillment.

  • The most common thing people get confused with between affect and effect

    The two words I see most people often get confused with are affect and effect. They both have different meanings.

    The term “affect” is usually used as a verb. It means to produce a change or influence something or someone. For example, “The rain affected the traffic,” or “The new policy will affect the company’s profits.”

    On the other hand, the term “effect,” is usually used as a noun. It means the result or consequence of something. For example, “The effect of the rain was a flooded street,” or “The new policy had a positive effect on the company’s profits.”

    So, to summarize, “affect” is a verb that means to produce a change or influence. While “effect” is a noun that means the result or consequence of something.

    To put things in perspective in life, are you affecting your life or are you the effect of your life? Kind of like the thermostat-thermometer analogy. As a thermostat, you can change the temperature of the room. Whereas, as a thermometer, you become the temperature of the room. Which one are you? Which one do you want to be?

  • Traits I Think About When It Comes to Mindset

    Mindset Defined

    Mindset refers to the beliefs, attitudes, and assumptions a person holds about themselves, others, and the world around them. It is the lens through which individuals perceive and interpret their experiences and shapes their behaviour and responses.

    A person’s mindset can be either fixed or growth-oriented. A fixed mindset is characterized by a belief that a person’s intelligence, talents, and abilities are predetermined and unchangeable. In contrast, a growth mindset is characterized by a belief that one’s intelligence, talents, and abilities can be developed and improved through effort and learning.

    Mindset can significantly impact a person’s life, affecting their ability to achieve their goals and overcome challenges. A growth mindset, for example, can lead to increased resilience, motivation, and achievement, while a fixed mindset can lead to a fear of failure and a reluctance to take risks.

    Fixed Mindset Traits

    People with fixed mindsets tend to have a specific set of traits and beliefs that distinguish them from those with growth mindsets. Here are some common traits of people with fixed mindsets:

    1. Belief in innate talent: People with fixed mindsets tend to believe that their abilities are predetermined and fixed, based on their innate talent. They often believe that success comes easily to those with natural talent and that effort and hard work are not as important.
    2. Fear of failure: People with fixed mindsets often fear failure because they see it as a reflection of their abilities and identity. They may avoid challenges and opportunities that could lead to failure, preferring to stick to what they know they are good at.
    3. Resistance to feedback: People with fixed mindsets may be resistant to feedback, especially criticism, as they see it as a threat to their self-image. They may take feedback personally and see it as a reflection of their abilities rather than an opportunity for growth.
    4. Limited view of success: People with fixed mindsets often have a limited view of what success means. They may define success in terms of achievement, status, or recognition, rather than personal growth or learning.
    5. Avoidance of challenges: People with fixed mindsets may avoid challenges because they see them as threats to their self-image and abilities. They may prefer to stick to what they know they can do well, rather than taking risks or trying new things.

    It’s worth noting that many people exhibit a mix of fixed and growth mindsets, and it’s possible to develop a growth mindset through intentional effort and practice.

    Growth Mindset Traits

    People with growth mindsets tend to have a specific set of traits and beliefs that distinguish them from those with fixed mindsets. Here are some common traits of people with growth mindsets:

    1. Belief in the power of effort: People with growth mindsets believe that they can develop their abilities through hard work, dedication, and perseverance. They see challenges and setbacks as opportunities for growth and learning.
    2. Embracing challenges: People with growth mindsets embrace challenges and are willing to take risks. They see challenges as opportunities to learn and improve, and are not discouraged by setbacks.
    3. Openness to feedback: People with growth mindsets are open to feedback, including criticism. They see feedback as an opportunity for learning and growth, and are not threatened by criticism.
    4. Persistence: People with growth mindsets are persistent and resilient. They are not discouraged by setbacks and failures, and are willing to try again and again until they succeed.
    5. View of success: People with growth mindsets have a broader view of success. They define success in terms of personal growth, learning, and improvement, rather than just achievement or recognition.

    It’s worth noting that many people exhibit a mix of fixed and growth mindsets, and it’s possible to develop a growth mindset through intentional effort and practice.

    Transitioning from Fixed Mindset to Growth Mindset

    If you have a fixed mindset and would like to transition to a growth mindset, here are some suggestions:

    1. Recognize your fixed mindset: The first step in transitioning to a growth mindset is to recognize the areas in which you hold a fixed mindset. Pay attention to your beliefs about your abilities, talents, and potential. Identify areas where you avoid challenges or see effort as pointless.
    2. Challenge your beliefs: Once you have identified your fixed mindset, challenge those beliefs. Look for evidence that contradicts your beliefs, and try to reframe your thinking in a more growth-oriented way. For example, when facing a challenge, remind yourself that the effort you put in will help you grow and improve.
    3. Embrace challenges: Seek out challenges and opportunities for growth. Take on tasks that push you out of your comfort zone, and be willing to try new things. When you face setbacks or failures, view them as opportunities to learn and grow.
    4. Cultivate a learning mindset: Focus on the process of learning, rather than just the outcome. Celebrate progress and improvement, and be open to feedback and criticism. Recognize that learning and growth are ongoing processes that require effort and dedication.
    5. Practice self-compassion: Be kind to yourself and avoid negative self-talk. Recognize that learning and growth involve setbacks and failures, and be gentle with yourself when you experience them. Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding that you would offer a friend.

    Transitioning from a fixed to a growth mindset takes time and effort, but with practice, it is possible to develop a more growth-oriented approach to life. By challenging your beliefs, embracing challenges, and focusing on learning and growth, you can cultivate a mindset that allows you to reach your full potential.

    Which mindset do you currently have? How do you want to change or improve your current mindset?

  • Why is setting goals important?

    Setting goals is important for several reasons:

    1. Provides direction and focus: Goals provide direction and focus by helping you identify what you want to achieve. Also, it helps to know what actions to take to reach your desired outcome.
    2. Increases motivation: Goals provide a source of motivation by creating a clear target to aim for. When you have a clear goal in mind, you are more likely to work harder and stay committed to achieving it.
    3. Helps measure progress: Goals provide a way to measure progress by creating a benchmark. This is helpful to track your achievements.
    4. Builds confidence and self-esteem:  When you see you are capable of achieving what you set out to do, this builds confidence and self-esteem.
    5. Encourages growth and learning: You develop new skills and knowledge by pushing yourself outside of your comfort. Setting these goals encourages growth and learning.
    6. Provides a sense of purpose: Goals give you something to strive for. It creates a sense of accomplishment when you reach your target.
    7. Enhances decision-making: Goals provide a clear framework to evaluate your options and choices aligned with your desired outcome.

    In summary, setting goals is important because it provides direction, increases motivation, measures progress, builds confidence and self-esteem, encourages growth and learning, provides a sense of purpose, and enhances decision-making.

    What else would you add to the above and why?

  • Advice I would give to my teenage self

    What advice would you give to your teenage self?

    The one advice I would give to my teenage self is a higher education degree does not necessarily correlate with a higher salary.

    Sure, it depends on the speciality but is not necessarily true for all degrees. In my case, all my degrees are liberal arts degrees.

    Another thing I’d add is that being a high paid employee doesn’t guarantee financial freedom. At the end of the day, employees are taxed. And especially more when they’re on the higher tax bracket.

    So, I’ll encourage my teenage self to explore the entrepreneurship path as well. This will come along with other skills to be developed as well.

    Anything else you’ll like to add that you want to advise to your teenage self?

  • The ONE Thing I Usually Do When Picking Up Groceries

    The other day I went to pick up groceries. You know when you order groceries through an app then you get assigned a date and time when they’re ready to be picked up? That.

    Sometimes I go by myself, sometimes with my wife, or with my toddler. Or all of them together. Anyway, at times, when I go by myself or just with my toddlers, I’d arrive and park at the stall. Then I’ll call the number on the stall through on-demand interpreting services. Or most know this as VRS. Then I’d give the name and stall number I’m parked in. Then while waiting, if I’m by myself, I’ll be taking the time to think about my next post or just simply take the time to meditate. If I’m with the kids, then I’ll have a conversation with them.

    Then when the employee comes out with the groceries, I’d typically get out to open the trunk. Usually, my intention is to at least connect with a basic conversation with them. First, I’d sign, “How are you?” The expected response is they freeze like a deer caught in headlights. Then I get sure with the thumbs up. This typically eases the tension. Then I’d get back in the car and let them load the groceries into the trunk. After they’re done, they usually know to get my attention or make eye contact with me before they close the trunk then go. This usually ends with a wave or thumbs up.

    Now, for those you watching or reading this, what would you do in a similar situation like this and why? Comment below. I’m curious to know.

  • Believe in Yourself

    Believing in yourself is a fundamental element of success and happiness in life. It means having a strong sense of confidence, self-worth, and trust in your abilities, talents, and potential. It is about having a positive mindset and a can-do attitude toward life’s challenges and opportunities.

    When you believe in yourself, you are more likely to:

    • take risks
    • pursue your dreams and goals
    • handle setbacks with resilience and determination

    You have a sense of purpose and direction that guides you toward success and fulfillment.

    Believing in yourself is not just about having blind faith in your abilities. It also involves developing self-awareness and a growth mindset. It requires acknowledging your strengths and weaknesses and having the willingness to learn and improve continuously.

    To cultivate self-belief, it is essential to surround yourself with positive influences such as:

    • supportive friends and family
    • mentors
    • role models who inspire you.

    Additionally, taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally is crucial by engaging in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment.

    Remember, self-belief is not something that happens overnight, but it is a process that takes time, effort, and patience. As you develop a stronger sense of self-belief, you will find that your life becomes more meaningful, fulfilling, and successful. So, believe in yourself, trust in your abilities, and don’t be afraid to take on life’s challenges with confidence and resilience.

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  • What is ‘Tuesday’ pronounced as?

    As a Deaf person who can read lips to an extent, I noticed there were variations how ‘Tuesday’ was pronounced. So, I decided to look it up and this is what I found:

    Research shows the word ‘Tuesday’ is mispronounced by a large number of people.

    In British English, it’s commonly pronounced as /ˈtʃuːzdeɪ/, just like ‘choozday’.

    In American English, it’s /ˈtuːzdeɪ/, just like ‘toozday’.

    I find this fascinating how both are in English but pronounced differently. There is no distinction when reading it in text only but when it comes to speaking, they are indeed different.

    I like the British English way of pronouncing it since we do have choices we can choose from the way how we think, feel, respond, behave, etc. I think this if the beauty of being human. Unlike the American English way, ‘toozday’, you can choose how you want to live your life more than just 2 choices.

    Oh, and a tip: ‘Tuesday’ is always capitalized because it’s a proper noun like other days of the week.

  • Here are 10 tips for developing self-awareness:

    1. Practice mindfulness: Take some time to tune in to your thoughts, feelings, and physical sensations in the present moment.

    2. Journaling: Write down your thoughts and feelings and reflect on them to gain insights into your emotions and thought patterns.

    3. Ask for feedback: Seek feedback from others about your behaviours, attitudes, and actions to gain a different perspective on how others perceive you.

    4. Reflection: Take some time to reflect on your actions, thoughts, and behaviours and identify patterns and tendencies.

    5. Learn your triggers: Identify the situations, events, or people that trigger certain emotional reactions in you and explore why they affect you.

    6. Seek out different perspectives: Be open to different perspectives, opinions, and ideas that challenge your existing beliefs.

    7. Stay curious: Continuously learn new things about yourself and the world around you, and explore different approaches to self-improvement.

    8. Be honest with yourself: Be honest about your strengths and weaknesses, acknowledge your mistakes, and take responsibility for your actions.

    9. Practice self-compassion: Be kind and gentle with yourself, and avoid harsh self-criticism that can inhibit self-awareness.

    10. Seek professional help: Consider seeking professional help to gain a deeper understanding of yourself, particularly if you are struggling with mental health issues that may be impacting your self-awareness.

  • Wrapping Up 2022

    As we are wrapping up 2022, as a Deaf parent myself, it appears things aligned. It’s as if life is working things out on its own with my inner manifestation. “What was your inner manifestation?” you may wonder. I wanted to create and be in an environment where Deaf people can thrive with hearing people. And, sure enough, here I am!

    A little background in a nutshell (will try!): I was born Deaf but my parents didn’t know till I was 2. I didn’t learn ASL till I was about 8 years old. This was about the same time I started to bloom at the school for the Deaf and then graduated from a Deaf school. After graduating, I:

    • Attended community college and got my A.A. (graduated with honours!)

    • Got my B.A. at UBC (and graduated with an average of 69% which included the courses I failed)

    • Completed my M.A. at Gallaudet University by defending my thesis called “What is Privacy in Deaf Space?”.

    • Also, I got accepted into a Ph.D. program at the University of Manitoba (but I dropped out after a semester and a half).

    Meanwhile, I was already working to pay off my 6-figure student loan racked up. I took up several jobs doing:

    • Contract work teaching in universities

    • Working full-time as a manager at a social services agency. This is where we had Deaf people at the leadership level including Deaf people on the front lines.

    While working the full-time jobs I mentioned, I:

    • started freelancing doing ASL translations

    • co-founded 100 Decibels: A Deaf Mime Troupe

    • was a landlord for a rental property (later sold).

    With all this happening, I was able to pay off my student loans.

    Then something amazing happened, got married and had kids. My spouse is hearing and our kids are… Deaf. Both have the same thing I have – bilateral sensorineural hearing loss. I had the opportunity to take parental leave for a year to bond with them while they were little. Then an opportunity came up. I took a job at a Deaf-owned and Deaf-led startup. Even more so, my spouse and I enrolled our oldest toddler at a school for the Deaf (where they hired a Deaf principal!)

    So, this is where I am today – in an environment where it is Deaf-led and Deaf-owned. It’s very fascinating how this is coming to and I’m grateful for this journey I’m in. So, back to the question, What was my inner manifestation? The drive I had in me was to contribute what I have to offer by showing Deaf people have value in the world. Back then I did it for myself only. Now with a growing family (hearing spouse and Deaf toddlers), the things I do in life are myself AND my family. Most parents of Deaf children, I’m still learning and rolling in with the punches. The journey doesn’t stop here. We’re wrapping up 2022 and entering into the new year 2023. The best is yet to come!

    What’s next for me here is to connect with parents of Deaf children. And share a bit about my journey and some things I’m learning as a Deaf dad to my Deaf kiddos and husband to my non-Deaf wife. Looking forward to connecting with new folks in the new year! See you all next year!